Why are people so deflated when one of their heroes fall into sin? Did they really think that their hero was above…………………………………………………………sin?
I would imagine that some of our readers were concerened back in 2004 when one of the best song writers of all times, David Bazan, went from singing the most real, vulnerable, intriguing and moving songs about living for God to singing the most real, vulnerable, intriguing and moving songs about cursing God (most specifically “Curse Your Branches”). You older readers remember Jim Bakker? You can check out this quick YouTube video of what went down with him in perhaps one of the biggest scandals of all time. How about Tim Lambesis from the “Christian Metalcore band,” As I Lay Dying, who tried to get his wife killed? Read the story right here.
A lot of you know that I am a huge Brett Favre fan. After the sexual allegations came out (while he was with the stupid Jets) and it was obvious that they were legit, I was confronted with a gut check. First, I had to accept the fact that he really was stupid enough to text pictures of his little guy down there.
But, here are the most important thoughts I pondered and some conclusions that I made.
“Well I guess I don’t like him as much now.” Why not? Because I found out he wasn’t perfect? Do I not like King David any more, nor read the Psalms, because he got a husband killed off in order to have his wife in bed?
Remember this is the same guy that wrote one of the most quoted passages in the Bible, “The Lord is My Shepherd.” And, come on. Let’s not forget that Brett brought the “Vince Trophy” back to Titletown after 29 years, baby!
“Well, I just don’t like him as much as a person.” Well that’s pretty lame. Didn’t Jesus genuinely love the lowliest of sinners? What good is it for Brett Favre to exist “blemish-less” in my mind, anyway? So, he made a mistake, and I don’t like him as a person anymore? Hopefully, my personal family and friends treat me better than that.
“Well, it definitely shows that nobody’s perfect.” Did I really think that he was? Why do I place humans on some sort of pedestal that no one belongs on? It’s probably healthy for all of us (right now) to make sure we don’t have an unhealthy fondness for anyone other than Jesus.
I’m not saying we should never look up to people nor esteem highly those that we honor and respect. However, when we write these same folks off because of some moral failure, it reveals some things in our own hearts and proves that we had them in a place we shouldn’t have. I’ll close with some of these heart issues for you to ponder.
We sometimes look for earthly heroes and leaders to make us to be happy. This is idolatry. Taking joy in Jesus’ perfection should suffice. This is similar to Israel’s desire for an earthly king. God said He would be their king, but they wanted an earthly king. Sure enough, being a human, Israel’s king failed and caused the people significant harm, time and time again.
We aren’t as keenly aware of our own sin as we should be. If we were, we would see ourselves “in the same boat” as the person that disappointed us, rather than seeing ourselves as the “more righteous observer.”
We sometimes need those that we admire, to remain above reproach in order for us to have soundness of mind. We should have our own walk with Jesus and not depend on others’ righteousness to motivate our living for Jesus. Oh yeah, no one in themselves is righteous anyway. (Can you say, “It’s all about JESUS’ righteousness and not ours?”)
We sometimes lose respect for our leaders/bosses when we see their imperfections. This is crazy, considering none of them acquired their leadership role for being perfect in the first place. We should instead brainstorm how our strengths can mitigate their weaknesses so that their work is “a joy and not a burden.”
Next time you put people on an unhealthy pedestal, remember this. Their resume starts with the fact that God had to die for their sin. That’s not a good start. I might add that your resume has that same “accomplishment.” That’s not a good start for you either.















Those who have accepted what Christ truly is in their lives are the very ones with clearest realization of just how lost they are without Him (losers to be exact). 





































why your small group and this blog sucks
Are you like my friend? Are you doing well, stable, prefer to help others, and think you are supposed to be a constant giver?
If so, then both you and the people you hope to help are in BIG TROUBLE. Frankly, this is the unhealthy attitude that surrounds a large amount of followers and commenters on THIS BLOG.
Christian, you want to give advice and drop knowledge on others. Why is this the way you choose to help others? Is it so other people can become more like you? Ouch, I hope not. Yet when we say that we want to give help, but we don’t want/need to receive help from others, that is exactly what we are saying. Even worse, some of us like to GIVE INSTRUCTION to others because we like the power. (This one we especially like to do on the Internet). Sometimes it is much more subtle, like my dad never letting anyone else pay for dinner, or the lady who always cooks and has people over, but doesn’t want to intrude on others’ homes or let anyone bring stuff for the party.
Christian and non-Christians, our PRIMARY position IS NEED and it is anti-Gospel to pretend any other way. It is selfish to have the attitude that you “just wanna help other people” if you don’t first and openly acknowledge your needs and weaknesses. Showing and embracing our need as sinners is a more useful, powerful, AND honest approach to giving.
You were not changed by advice. If you look back on your life, you were changed by suffering, grace, the Holy Spirit, long-term relationships and role models, a lifetime of tiny shaping experiences, and maybe some intentional advice during a time when you probably asked some one for it; some one you really trusted. Why would you expect anything different for anyone else? In other words, The Gospel of Jesus Christ changed you, not advice.
How long did it take you to get the way you are? How long did it take the person you want to help to get to be the way they are? Real help and change are not usually the result of a quick fix or correction but rather a long term investment. Continue reading “why your small group and this blog sucks” »
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